Don't Talk to Him
The most crucial rule in breaking up is to not talk to the person you're breaking up with. Even if you think you can handle it and still get over the person, you can't. Don't kid yourself; feelings will get hurt. Take some time off, get over him, and maybe someday in the future you'll be friends. Until then, lick your wounds and recover any way you'd like; whether that be partying hard, staying in bed for days with pints of ice cream, or spending absurd amounts of money on clothes you don't need. No one will say a thing; we all heal in our own, weird ways.
>>My healing started when I found a job. It kept me busy, too busy and too tired to even think about him anymore. Although there are times that I miss him but the pain is not that intense anymore. I knew I was on my way to recovery.
Snap Out of It
Remember how things, like stupid songs and movies and that little spot in the park that you two went to on your first date used to be "yours"? Well, they're not anymore. Don't make a connection to platonic objects when there isn't one. Remind yourself that you like that spot in the park because of the good view, not because of anyone connected to it. There's no point losing more than you have to from a breakup, so don't get all sappy on yourself
>>Continue living your life... I know it's so hard but that's what I'm doing now.
Reconnect with Your Friends
No matter how much you say you're not going to be that girl who gives up her friends for her boyfriend; everyone gives up a little of their time to spend with their guy. Well, now is the time to make it up to them (and, you could use the girl talk). So, go out and have fun; grab your best wing woman, and remember how much fun being single really is.
>>When my friends learned about it, they all came to my rescue. Took me under their wings and let me cry my eyes out until I couldn't cry anymore. Made time from their busy schedule just to meet up with me and be with me when I felt sad or lonely. But I knew that there will come a time that I have to be alone and face the pain.
Take Some Time For Yourself
Amidst all of this trying not to talk to him, hanging out with friends, partying more and/or eating lots and lots of ice cream-you need to remember to sit back and actually work through your feelings. Understand why things went south, and why you're better off this way. And in no time you'll be back to your old self, and what's-his-name will be a thing of the past.
>>As what I've previously said, continue living your life. I still go to places where we used to frequently go because I enjoy going or hanging out there. It is my me time. My time to relax and unwind.
It's All About Rewards
And finally, do all of the little things that make you happy every day. Yep, being single means thinking about you, you, you. So, go and take that extra time after work and buy yourself that little ring you've been obsessing over. Or take a long walk and meet a friend for cupcakes because well, you can. Have fun spoiling yourself, because you deserve it after....wait, what? I'm forgetting already.
>>Thinking about my past relationships, I never really had anything longer than a month in between them. I guess I was eager enough to forget the ex that I jump into one relationship to another. Which I think now, was wrong. It didn't really gave me enough time to reflect why or what happened and didn't gave me enough time for myself. Right now, I just want to enjoy everything as a single girl. And now that I got a new job, I want to make plans for MY future and honestly speaking I already have a one-year plan and I'm all excited about it. All about myself.
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