Mr. Next

Think your Mr. Next has the potential to be Mr. Right? Before you leap without looking, take an honest inventory. See how many of the following five essential traits he possesses.

Dating Trait #1: He listens to you

The best way to know if Mr. Next is interested in (and worthy of) being a candidate for Mr. Right? He listens to you. You'll know he's listening when he shows genuine concern, consistently remembers things you've told him (your birthday, favorite food, best friend's name, etc.), and offers emotional support in honest and thoughtful ways.

Dating Trait #2: He connects with you easily

We've all been in those relationships that take W-O-R-K (and suck the life force out of us in the process). When a relationship works on its own, it feels effortless, easy, and fluid. You don't have to force anything, forgive anyone, or turn a blind eye to red flags or gut-twisters. Instead, you communicate and collaborate with comfort, compatibility, and undeniable chemistry. If and when you experience this kind of interaction, you are on to something really special.

Dating Trait #3: He wants the real you

So often, women feel the need to sacrifice some part of themselves to make a relationship work. In the right relationship, there's no need. You don't have to hide, tone down, or apologize for any aspect of you or your fabulous life. With the right partner, you're not only able to be yourself, but you're better able to be the best version of your most authentic self -- no compromises needed.

Dating Trait #4: He's trustworthy

A relationship without trust is doomed from the start. But a relationship with abundant trust? A fabulous foundation for real and lasting love! Built over time, trust is based on the simple belief system that your partner has your best interests at heart and will never intentionally hurt you (and vice versa). If and when you discover that Mr. Next is 100 percent trustworthy, you'll have no trouble giving your heart to him. In return, he'll most likely give you his heart and pave the way for a lasting, loving relationship to unfold

Dating Trait #5: He enriches your life

In the wrong relationship, your partner tears you to emotional shreds, brings you down, and in general drains your energy. In the right relationship, he enriches your life, inspires you to be your best self, and brings a sense of peace and possibility to you. You'll know Mr. Next is enriching your life if and when he encourages and supports you professionally, personally, and spiritually. And when he does, he may just be Mr. Right!

Conversations...

H: “Sana kaw ung magpabago ng simple kong buhay”

S: “Gawin nating wild?”

H: “Pwede rin! Hahaha!!!”

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S: “Araw-araw naman tayo nagkikita ah? Hindi pa ba enough yun?”

H: “Di nga kasi sa floor limited ung masolo kita”

S: “Masolo ka dyan! Bad ka hah!”

H: “Kasi gusto ko mawork out ung pagkatok ko sa puso mo…”

S: “Steady lang ha… Easy lang… Let’s not rock the boat too much…”

H: “Oo naman… Sana kaw ang maging partner ko sa buhay… Gawin ko lahat para maging karapat-dapat akong partner mo…”

S: “It’s going to be a long journey…”

H: “Ok lang…”

S: "We'll see..."

AFTER A WHILE (Veronica Shoftshall, 1971)

After a while you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn that love doesn't mean leaning
and company doesn't always mean security.

And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
and presents aren't promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up
and your eyes ahead
with the grace of woman,
not the grief of a child

And you learn to build
all your roads on today
because tomorrow's ground
is too uncertain for plans
and futures have a way
of falling down in mid-flight.

After a while you learn
that even sunshine burns
if you get too much
so you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone
to bring you flowers.

And you learn
that you really can endure
you really are strong
you really do have worth
and you learn
and you learn
with every goodbye, you learn...

Then After "after a while" you change and build your hopes again. And pray that maybe this time it will be different. And you hold on to that hope because in the end that's all you really have..

AFTER "AFTER A WHILE"

After 'after a while'
You want to hold a hand
not to chain a soul but to enjoy its company,
and you want someone's lips to kiss,
not because you are lonely but because you are
happy, and you want to give presents
and you want to make promises.

After 'after a while'
You begin to accept your defeats like an adult,
but like a child, will want someone to listen and care,
and you want someone who will build roads with
you today so maybe you can pave the way for your
future together.

After 'after a while'
You want someone's sunshine and warmth,
but also accept the rain and the cold,
and you want to give flowers picked from your
own garden.

And when your garden is picture perfect,
you want it to be more than a picture
even if it means having to be imperfect
because you want someone in it to stay and to live.

Then you'll see that there is
such a thing as love...
and that you were made to live in someone else's
garden...
and you'll know that there is more to life than
yourself.

AND NOW...
You realize that no matter how tightly you hold,
if you're meant to let go, you can
And then you will understand that love
gives you reasons to understand
even the most complicated situations
And you will grow older believing that just
because you have convictions
doesn't mean you're always right

You will remember lips because of the smiles
that made your day,
the words that touched your soul, not only
because of the sweet kisses

And as you graciously accept defeat and absorb
the meaning of lessons learned,
You feel that you are finally being the person
you never thought you'd be

So, armed with courage, strength and confidence,
you will face the world
head on...
With or without an army behind you
Because you know your worth and that alone is an
armor

With more heartbreaks you will cry
But after every heartache, you will rise

Life is a garden ... it takes long to make it beautiful.
But it's always worth the wait..

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Thanks Hazel for posting this... I love every word of it.

Surprise! Surprise! Surprise!

Last day of shift, TL Red approached me with TL Tony from New England. They said they have to take my picture. I asked why and what for? And TL Red it has something to do with me being a top agent for our team for the month of February! Huwaaat!!!! Me?? Top agent for the month of February for our team! I was repeating every word he was saying… My Gad! I was really surprised and I didn’t expect it! And of all the days, they chose to take my picture today when I didn’t have any make up on and I had only 4 hours of sleep… Bummer! But I was happy… TL Red said I should feel proud because not everybody has the chance to be one. By Tuesday shift, my face will be plastered in all the plasma TV’s on the floor together with other team’s top agent!!! Whaaaaaa!!!

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Saturday night went to Dhezies house at around 11pm to have a drinking session with Ruby, Anthony and Mike, just the five of us. It was fun. Kwentuhan lang about our lives at makinig sa videoke night ng kapitbahay nila Dhez. Hehehe! After six bottles of Redhorse, as a celebration narin for being a top agent, I bought five more bottles of Redhorse. Unang sumuko si Ruby. Well actually she was not drinking much and she went home ahead of me na. Then last two bottles si Dhez naman ang sumuko na and went up and slept already… Hahaha! So for the remaining tagayan, it was only me, Mike and Anthony… Pasulpot-sulpot si Jev to check on us. Finally when I took the last shot na, sabi ko I have to go home na. Maliwanag na kaya! It’s 6am! Hahaha!!! They were convincing me to sleep over nalang.. Sabi ko naman my house is like less than 3 minutes away lang naman and besides Ate Lita will kill me if she learns I didn’t come home.

It was fun seeing Anthony again and meeting Mike.

And now lazy Sunday afternoon nursing a bad hang-over! God! Woke up with a splitting headache! The only part I hate about drinking too much is the next day and when I’m forced to throw up to get rid of the alcohol in my system. I hate it! As much as I could I don’t want to throw-up. I was planning pa naman to go to Cubao and have coffee sana and buy some stuff… Hay I was too lazy… Just spend the day with Edward nalang. Watching whatever on the TV…

Another weekend is gone… Another work week ahead… Hay!!!! Oh my gad! Mamaya na pala ung mga pictures namin makikita! Whaaaa!!!!! Parang ayokong pumasok! Hehehe!

A Dog Story

I just watched Hachiko, a Richard Gere movie based on a Japanese true story about a dog that waited for his master everyday at a train station even after his death; A story of loyalty and unconditional love.

I learned about this story when I was in highschool. I would always catch this show about Japan in channel 9 while I’m preparing for school and one day they feature this story of a bronze statue of a dog at a train station this caught my attention then years after a movie is made.

What really amazes me until now is the capacity of a dog to really love you unconditionally, to be loyal even though there are times when you’re not there to take care of them and when some times you’re too busy and yet they don’t mind and they still love you no matter what.

They will love you when you’re at your worse and be there at your best. No ifs or buts…

I love the movie… pero medyo bitin sya… Hehehe…

I love dog movies… they don’t fail to make me cry everytime…

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Let me tell you a story about one of my dogs Mandy that really surprised me.

She’s my first dog and the “ate” of all my dogs here. A little bit spoiled and maldita too but could be very malabing at times. She loves Ate Lita, one of my angels here at home. At night, if Mandy wants to go out and pee she would wake up Ate Lita with her distinct bark and Ate Lita would know that she wants to go out and would open the window and Mandy would do her thing. When Mandy wants to go out she would wake Ate Lita and only her.

But one night, Mandy went to the angel’s room and started barking at Jenelyn and when she woke up thinking that Mandy just wants to go out, she started for the window but then Mandy went the opposite way to where I slept. Jenelyn thinking that there must be something wrong followed her immediately and found Mandy sitting in front of my door and wagging her tail. Only then that Jenelyn realized I was still asleep and it was already 11:30pm and I was going to be late. Then Mandy started barking again and Jenelyn knocked on my door and when I answered only then did Mandy stopped barking.

How could she know that I was still sleeping? How could she know I was going to be late if I didn’t wake up anytime soon? That was the only incident that I almost over slept since I’ve been working. I can’t still believe she did that. Hehehe! When I’m off to work she’s the one who sees me leave and when I come home she’s the first one to greet me. Like as if she could hear or smell me miles away, and when I open the door she’ll be there wagging her tail ready to jump and lick my face.

She’s getting a little old now. I’m not counting the years though; I’m looking forward to having her beside me till I grow old hopefully.

That’s just one of those stories I have with my dogs. I love all of them. They make me happy. They comfort me. They’re there no matter what.

:)

ooohhh!!!

some'thing' is coming soon...

i can't hardly wait!!!!!

Empathy!!!

I had a coaching with my TL Red last Saturday. Actually it was a performance review as by March 7, we will be officially regularized by our company. (Yes! After months of hard work, everything paid off.)

I'm doing very well with my OPI, second highest for Team Red (as per February). My attendance for the first quarter of the year is okay. So far no absences and lates yet. Just have to maintain this till the end of March and I'll have that quarterly bonus! In our team, I'm the only one candidate for it. As far as performance wise, my documentation is 99%, AHT is below 600, my only problem is my QA. I always get a mark down for "empathy" as I'm always tamad making my empathy statements. But if only I could just get my heart into it, as per TL said "Think of what it could do to your OPI if you get high a score with your QA.. Think of it... You're in a good position na. Konting trabaho nalang sa empathy"... And as what my friend Mariel also told me, "Mars, baklain mo ang tawag mo!" Hahaha!

I promised myself beginning March I will do that. Empathy! Empathy! Empathy!

Seriously, I didn’t think that I’ll ever enjoy working in a call center. But I am. I didn’t even know I could excel in a job like this. When my TL asked me what my goal is, I didn’t tell him that I wanted to be trainer. One thing I’m sure of, I don’t want to be a TL because basing it from all the work loads my TL has everyday… Kakapagod kaya! Hahaha! Secretly, being a Trainer is what I really like to do someday.

But for the meantime, gain more knowledge and experiences. Do my job well, and make every call a good, quality call, maski buraot ang mga lintek na mga customer na yan… Hahaha!!! As what my philosophy is, all work stops when I leave the office. I don’t bring the stress and angst at home. I don’t want and will not be affected by bad calls. Ganun talaga… There are good days and there are bad days… Learn to separate yourself from all the calls you get. I’m not an irate agent… Too soft spoken pa nga daw. Hahaha! But when it’s called for, I do get a little authoritative with the customer…

Hay... Life nga naman… I’m doing good… I’m doing good…

Life is Good!

xoxox

(and cross my fingers na hindi na kami malipat ng State… Hopefully, it is final that we will stay with Michigan… rumors are circulating that in a few more months we’ll get transferred to Indiana or worse… I don’t know what to call it… worse or better… be super agents “daw”…. Whatever that means… that scares the heck out of me…)